Looking for the Ring, Part 2

When we’re not in a relationship we typically are looking for the ring on the hand of an attractive male and hoping not to find one. Once we are in a relationship we continue looking for the ring; however this time we want him to put it on our finger.

Many single women spend a great deal of time planning to get the coveted ring. It has become almost like a sport for some. So much so that often in relationships we make compromises and refuse to set necessary boundaries because we believe that certain stipulations may cause us to lose our shot at the ring.

Well first and foremost let’s recognize that it’s NOT all about the ring. Of course we want the ring and to be married, but if the one who offers it is not a man of God and called to be your husband, is it really what you want? Too many of us are settling for carnal men and staying in unhealthy relationships simply because we don’t want to be alone.

I understand this dilemma because I too once stayed in relationships that were going nowhere or that I knew were not edifying, but no more. No longer do I desire anything less than God’s best. No longer do I want anyone who is not willing to honor God and His word in our relationship.

There is absolutely no need to compromise because God can be trusted to keep His promises. So if you’re at a point where you’re only looking for the ring, checkout this video for a funny, but accurate depiction of what compromise gets you.

Every guy you meet is not meant to be your husband. Allow your husband to find you and pray for discernment so you will be able to recognize him when he arrives (or just as important recognize those who are not called to be your husband). The ring is only a prize when it’s offered by a man of God who is committed to God and you and honors God with his life.

At the end of the day, you’ve gotta ask yourself do you want to settle or do you want what God has for you? We’ve seen what our conventional wisdom provides, so why not try it God’s way? As stated by the Edwards in their book When Love’s In View,“The enemy is still using the same tricks to convince us that God is holding out on us. Sowing seeds of discontentment as far as the eye can see.” However, the keys to contentment are found in Christ, not in a ring (or a husband). As Christians we are to walk by faith and not by sight. You know God’s Word, now choose to live it. What God has for you is for you!

“…I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you." - Genesis 28:15

“Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.”- Psalm 27:14

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." - Phil 4:6-7

So instead of looking for the ring, look for Jesus and in due time the ring will come if it’s God’s will.

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