How to Deal with Loneliness
It’s just me, myself and I…if that’s your thought process that
may be the problem. I can remember reading Rick Warren’s book The
Purpose Driven Life several years ago and the very
first sentence hit me like a ton of bricks, “It’s not about
you.”
Wow,
talk about a reality check! Even as a Christian, I had succumb to the
world’s teaching to look out for self. However, as Rick Warren so
accurately states in his book, life is not about us, it’s about God and
His purpose. He mentions, “focusing on ourselves will never reveal our
life’s purpose.”
I learned a lot from that book, but I think the
most important message I took away was the fact that we were not
created to live our lives in isolation. We were created for community.
Just because you’re single does not mean that you should live your life
as a community of one.
Dealing with loneliness becomes much
easier when you realize you are not alone. Not only has God given us
His Spirit, but He has also given us a family. As Christians, we are
all a part of the Body of Christ.
We are a part of God’s family.
God has given every believer at least one spiritual gift to be used to
build up the Body of Christ. If you are not using your gift to build up
the body, then the body is lacking something it needs vitally…YOU!
Sure
just as your physical body can survive without a finger or a toe,
certain tasks would be easier if they existed and were in proper
working order. Well the same is true with the Body of Christ, we need
the gift that God has placed in you.
Take the focus off of self
and look to catch a glimpse of the needs around you. There is so much
work to be done, but the good news is you don’t have to do it all, you
can pick and choose. Conquer your loneliness and choose how you wish to
apply your gift(s). You can volunteer,
mentor, entertain, create
a website,
the list is endless. Start anywhere, but start now!
Tip: Don’t be selfish, share your gift!
Suggestions for dealing with loneliness:
Turn Your Pity Party Into A Praise Party!
That's right, one of the best ways to combat loneliness is to have your
own personal praise party. Pull out or download
your favorite Christian hits
and praise your blues away. Praise & worship songs are my
personal
recommendation, but choose whatever appeals to you. The messages in
these songs will help focus your mind appropriately (away from self and
on Christ). Go ahead, get your praise on!
Count Your Blessings!
If
you do not currently keep a journal, now is a good time to start.
Rather than focus on the fact that you feel all alone, put some focused
attention on all that God has blessed you with. I think Oprah called it
a gratitude journal, but whatever you call it write down all that you
have to be thankful for. There's a good chance you won't even remember
why you were sad and lonely when you began.
No matter how bad
you think your life is, know that there is always someone who would
love to be in your shoes. Remember the story of the man who complained
that he had no shoes until he met the man who had no feet. Think about
it, you have so much to thank God for...and there is no better time to
start than now.
Find Your Worth in the Word!
Sometimes
the overwhelming fact of our singleness causes us to forget just how
valuable we are to God and that He loves us. You are His workmanship,
designed by the creator of all, for a great purpose. When you struggle
to see all that God sees in you, join in the Free Online Women's Bible Study to
discover your true purpose and worth. You are a child of the King with
so much to offer this world, discover it now!
Do You Have a Great Suggestion About How to Overcome Loneliness as a Christian Single?
It's your turn to share how God has helped you overcome feelings of loneliness. We all battle the feeling of loneliness at some point, so share your ideas for how you deal with loneliness and help someone else.
Bless and Be Blessed!
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