In today's society, Christian purity seems to be elusive or
considered old fashioned. Because we are bombarded with sex in so many
different ways daily, many have become desensitized and believe it's
just the way things are today. Well it's true that may be the way
things are in the world, but we must remember we are in the world and
not of the world.
I am often appalled when I speak with young girls because very
is shocking to them and almost nothing seems to be off limits.
Unfortunately, sex and sexual activities seem to be commonplace or a
way of life for many of them. This saddens me because they don't
realize the precious gift they possess and that it should be treasured.
However, it becomes increasingly difficult to convince them to live a
life of purity when most of the adults around them are not. It's bad
enough that celebrities and their friends offer bad examples, but
unfortunately it is often difficult to even find examples of Christians
living a life of purity.
I am committed to living a life of purity and I proudly wear a
purity promise ring because I've always told my students that I would
never ask them to do anything I wouldn't do. In fact, I've
encouraged them to inquire if they ever see me without my ring because
that's symbolic of breaking the vow. However, when adults notice my
don't view it as a symbol of pride. In fact, I am often looked at as
if I have two heads when I state it's a purity promise ring.
Nevertheless, I wear it proudly because it's an outward
symbol of the inward commitment I've made to God and my future husband.
I've also found it's a great witnessing tool. When people ask about my
ring, it gives me an opportunity to tell them about Christ and my
commitment to Him.
Well even though the world is not obsessed with purity, you must have
some interest to have gotten this far down on the page. So in honor of
your faithfulness to read and hopefully apply this information, let me
continue by defining purity and sharing some information on how to live
a life of purity.
The Definition of Purity
It seems the
definition of purity is
often limited to sexual purity. While
sexual purity is indeed a large
part of living a life of purity, it is not at all the only part.
a life of purity is more than just abstaining from sex. The definition
of purity involves the way you interact with people. It includes what
you think about and how you spend your time. Christian purity is a
matter of totally committing your life to God.
Don’t try to find out how far you can
go, but rather determine how you can best honor God with your life,
your mind, your body.
Purity is more than just setting a few limits in your dating life. It’s
more than a list of dos & don’ts. The definition of
purity is a TOTAL commitment of your life to God (a
commitment to Godliness in every area of your life).
that seems a bit far-reaching, keep in mind the goal of a Christian
single woman is not win any popularity contests or impress people, but
to honor God with her life.
Why live a life of Christian Purity?
If I were to compliment your purse, you would likely be flattered and
say thank you.
However, if I were to ask you if I could have it, you would probably
say no, right? No matter how much I said I liked it or how cute I
thought it was, the chances of you just giving it to me are probably
Now if that’s the case, the question that begs to
be asked is ‘Why are you more protective of your purse than your body
and your heart?’ Ladies, we must learn to guard our bodies and our
hearts rather than freely give them to anyone with a few nice
compliments that make us feel good.
So you may be asking, ‘Why should we as Christians strive to maintain
(or regain) our purity?’
and foremost, because we love God and He said so! We don’t just avoid
sex because we don’t want to get pregnant or to prevent STDs. As
Christians we abstain from sex until marriage because we love God and
that’s what He has commanded.
“God’s will is for you to be
holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control
his own body and live in holiness and honor” - I
Thessalonians 4:3-4 NLT
• God designed sex for marriage (Gen 2:24)
“…a man will…be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh”
• Sexual immorality is raping God (I Cor 6:12-20)
Jesus bought you, so He calls the shots (though He gives us choices).
Since God’s spirit lives inside you, to force Him to have sex with
someone He doesn’t want to is rape.
If you love God, choose to
• Sexual immorality is cheating (I Thess 4:3-8)
- It cheats you
- It cheats your future spouse
- It cheats the other person
- It cheats the other person’s future spouse
How to Live a Life of Christian Purity
Living a life of purity starts with your choices. Now that’s not to say
it will always
be easy because in reality, sometimes it will require you to make tough
However, God loves us so much that although He created
us, He does not force us to obey Him. He does not want us to be
spiritual robots, He wants us to freely choose to live for Him. What
are you doing with the freedom of choice He’s given you?
“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you
won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.” - Galatians
now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on
what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and
admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
- Philippians 4:8 NLT
striving to living a life of purity, decide to give up what you think
and what the world says about sex and sexuality. Then, exchange your
thoughts for what God thinks.
“Yes, all the things I once
thought were so important are gone from my life. Compared to the high
privilege of knowing Christ Jesus as my Master, firsthand, everything I
once thought I had going for me is insignificant—dog dung. I've dumped
it all in the trash so that I could embrace Christ and be embraced by
him.” - Philippians 3:8 The Message
“Don’t copy the
behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a
new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know
God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
- Romans 12:2 NLT
If you’ve fallen, know that God can and will restore you if you let
“But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just
to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.”
- I John 1:9 NLT
High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the
same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the
throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we
will find grace to help us when we need it most.” - Hebrews
Pray and ask God to help you live a life of purity.
“Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to
temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”
- Matthew 26:41 NLT
“…Pray that you will not give in to temptation.” -
Luke 22:40b NLT
Know that you play a vital role. You must identify what temptation
looks like for you and stay away from it.
blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward
they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who
love him. And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is
tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong and he never tempts
anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and
drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin
is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. So don’t be misled, my
dear brothers and sisters.” - James 1:12-16 NLT