Blinded by Singleness

As I was sitting in church listening to the choir sing “I am what You see” by Bishop Paul S. Morton a famous quote by Helen Keller came to mind, “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” 

Now this is a beautiful song filled with hope and encouragement that suggests limitless possibilities, yet I thought of limitations.  

Why you ask?  Because I thought of recent conversations and emails from single woman who just seem to be blinded by singleness.  They have sight, but are unable to see who they are in Christ because they can’t get beyond the fact that they just happen to be single at the moment.

So many single women seem to be unnecessarily living depressed and defeated lives.  Some are struggling with the fact that they’re still single while it appears that everyone around them is married.  Some are questioning if it’s actually God’s will for them to be married.  Others are placing their lives on hold until their husband arrives.  Some wonder if God can really forgive them for having sex outside of marriage.  The list goes on and on.

However, we must remember that we’re not our past sins or our problems; we are the righteousness of God.  We truly underestimate who we are in Christ.  Yes, we’re single but we’re also:

•    made in the image of Christ (Genesis 1:27),
•    fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139)
•    His child and joint heir with Christ (Rom 8:14-17)
•    His chosen people and a royal priesthood (I Peter 2:9)
•    His workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
•    His disciple (Matt 28:19-20)

just to name a few!  Ultimately, you have a choice to make.  Will you choose to believe your fickle feelings or a triumphant Christ?  The choice is yours.

Be confident in who you are in Christ.  And guess what, confidence attracts Christian single men.  Many single women are defeating themselves.  When you walk around sad and depressed it is actually a turn off to men, so while you’re hoping and praying for a husband you may actually be sending a completely different message.

Recognize the jewel that you are and enjoy life with great anticipation of the blessings to come.  Review the words of this song and allow them to penetrate your heart.  Make it your prayer to God.  Ask Him to help you see yourself as He sees you.

I am what You see by Bishop Paul S. Morton

Help me to see me
the way You see me
sometimes I see pain Lord
when You see victory
I see where I am Lord
You see where I shall be
open my eyes, help me believe
I am what You see

You see me victorious
You see me faithful
You see me believing
that You are able
You see me rejoicing
cause I have survived
open my eyes, help me believe
I am what You see

Don’t allow singleness to blind you any longer. Confess those negative feelings to God and ask Him to remove the blinders from your eyes so you can see you the way He sees you and live the abundant life He intended even now during your season of singleness.

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