For a long time, I tried to figure out why being a committed
Christian who refused to settle for anything less than God’s best
seemed so unacceptable to just about everyone around me. Some of the
comments that have been hurled my way seem that many people (including
Christians) would rather I settle for just having a man. Or at the very
least they believe I should not have such high standards and hold out
for a fully committed Christian man.
This advice (if you want to
call it that) is so ridiculous to me because Christians will encourage
you to pray and wait on God for just about any other issue you face in
life. However when it comes to one of the most important decisions of
our lives, we’re often told not to wait on God, but rather just settle.
the God I serve is not just the God who heals my body, restores my
soul, provides for my needs or forgives me, He is MY EVERYTHING! And in
case you’re wondering everything includes my husband that is yet to
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord.
“They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and
a hope.” - Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
Rest assured, I’m here to offer real encouragement to my fellow
Christian single sisters. You do not have to settle.
God knows exactly where you are and exactly what you need. I will be
the first to admit, it may not always be easy, but God never promised
us the road would be easy, He promised He would be with us.
“…And lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.
Amen.” - Matthew 28:20 NKJV
“…For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor
forsake you.” - Hebrews 13:5 NKJV
After much prayer, I am delighted to share the HOPE
God has given me in my pre-marital
state and I pray that you find it as encouraging as I have.
Highly Thought of by God
I know you often try to figure out why you’re still single as if this
could be punishment for something you’ve done in the past. You probably
question God’s rationale behind the situation, but have you ever
thought about the fact that your singleness could be a reflection of
how highly God must think of you?
Remember the story of Job in
the Bible? Job had a wonderful life and He was an upstanding Christian
by any measure. The Bible even says He was "blameless and upright". Now
by our worldly standards we would believe that Job should have enjoyed
a perfect life, but of course the Bible tells us just the opposite.
1:8 tells us that the Lord thought so highly of Job that when Satan
came strolling about seeking whom he may devour, the Lord asked, “Have
you considered my servant Job?” Now I know it’s easy to just focus on
all the negative things that then happened to Job, but let’s look at
this from a different perspective. Job was such an admirable Christian
that God Himself said "I know he can be trusted to be faithful despite
the trials." (paraphrased)
Does this sound like your life? You
are trying to live right, read your Bible, pay your tithes, participate
in ministry, aspire to purity, etc. but your friends who are not as
committed are the ones getting married. Maybe like Job, God can trust
you with the trials (in your case the trials of singleness).
encouragement for the Christian single woman is the last chapter of
Job. Yes, you remember all the hardships Job endured, but don’t forget
how the story ends. Chapter 42 begins with a revelation from Job. He
plainly states to the Lord, "I had heard of you before, but now I know
you for myself."And when Job prayed for his friends, God restored
everything he had lost (or as my grandmother would say, Job received
double for his trouble).
God will restore the years you’ve sown
My sister rejoice, could it be that God has said, "Have you considered
my servant (insert your name here)?" You’re
getting to know God and He is preparing you for something great. The
best is yet to come!
“The LORD blessed the latter part of Job's life more than the
first…” - Job 42:12 NIV
“So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust
has eaten…” - Joel 2:25 NKJV
Opportunity to Serve
There really is nothing more fulfilling than serving others.
In fact, it
is the secret to living.
Being single, you have a great opportunity to serve God and the best
way to serve God is by serving others. Jesus said He did not come to be
served, but to serve (Matthew 20:28), so follow Christ, our example and
you ever just sit and look out of the window? Have you ever thought
about the fact that both a window and a mirror are both made from
glass, but have very different functions? Windows are used to look
through so you can see other things, but mirrors are only for looking
Guess what, God wants us to be more like a window.
If you spent more time looking out for others rather than just looking
out for yourself, you’d be happier. Imagine living in a house with all
mirrors and no windows. You would not be able to see the sun, trees,
clouds, rain, people walking by or anything else. Also, it would be
dark because no light could shine through.
The same thing
happens when we think only of ourselves. However as Christian single
women, we have received the light of Christ and we should let our
lights so shine in the world that they may know our Father in heaven.
My prayer and encouragement for you, the Christian single woman, is
"May your eyes be more like a window that can see the world’s needs
around you and less like a mirror that only lets you see yourself."
Christians, we are striving to be like Christ. Christ placed others
first. He placed our need for a savior ahead His own and came to die
for us. We are most like Christ when we serve others.
Strive to be like Christ!
encouragement for the Christian single woman is that God has given you
a unique opportunity in the form of your singleness to be more like
Him. Take advantage of the opportunity to become more like Christ. Click
here to discover ways you can serve others.
Pursue Christ Wholeheartedly
How many things in
your life do you do half-heartedly?
Study your Bible, follow the posted
eat healthy...I could go on, because the truth of the
matter is there are many things in our lives that we are not fully
committed to. However, may I suggest that your pursuit of a thriving relationship
with Christ should not be one of them.
singleness is a perfect opportunity to pursue Christ with your whole
heart! You are primed and ready! You have no excuses; nothing is
holding you back from getting to know the love of your life better.
is such a gentleman with us. He waits patiently for us to accept His
gift of salvation and to spend time with Him. Yet, He has been fully
committed to us all along. I once heard a cute story that illustrates
this so well. As the story goes, a chicken and a pig endeavored to
provide breakfast. However, the difference between the chicken and the
pig in this breakfast is considerable. The chicken is involved, but the
pig is committed.
Christ has shown you by example of His death
and resurrection that He is committed to having a relationship with
you. How long will you just remain involved in the process without
being fully committed to Him? Pursue Christ with your whole heart and
give some focused attention to developing
your relationship with Him.
Over the years I learned to ask, “What is the lesson I am to learn in
this?” rather than simply ask “Why I am enduring this?” If
you learn nothing else during your singleness, than to develop a
relationship with Christ and to love Him with your whole heart, then
every moment of your singleness would be worth it. If that’s
not hope and encouragement for the Christian single woman then I don’t
know what is.
so easy to become complacent in life. Even if we don’t like where we
are sometimes evolving eludes us because we have found a comfort zone.
It’s easy to keep doing what we’re doing because it’s familiar, but
breaking out into new territory and trying something different can be
hard. However, it’s insane to continue doing the same things, and
expect different results.
It’s time to die to self and allow God
to evolve us into the women He is calling us to be. Yes change is
uncomfortable, but know that you will not be moving in your own
strength, but in the power of God. The reality of the matter is, the
only constant in life is change. We must be willing to grow and evolve.
God has placed each of us here for a purpose and we should be
eagerly seeking to not only know, but to be actively engaged in that
purpose for our lives. If you do not yet know your purpose, ask God.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives
generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”
- James 1:5
Don’t become stagnant in your singleness, grow and evolve into the
woman of God you are designed and destined to be.
Settle no more for your current state…EVOLVE!
• Evolve in your knowledge of Christ
• Evolve in your knowledge of God’s Word
• Evolve in your knowledge of You
Think about how highly God must think
of you to
know that you could handle the difficulties you face.
as you have grown physically and are no longer a child, endeavor to
grow the spiritual woman within. Evolve…Grow…Become…all that God has
planned for you!
“…grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior
Jesus Christ…” - 2 Peter 3:18 NKJV
maybe your life is not working out how you envisioned it but be
encouraged my Christian single sister, remember God’s ways are not only
different than ours, they are better and higher. Now you have HOPE for
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither
are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher
than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts
than your thoughts.” - Isaiah 55: 8-9 NIV above-socializeitsocializeit